Journey to One’s Self: Try not to Barf
As Business Coaches, we often find that stress and burnout are related to existential questions. Many of us hear the whisper in our heads asking us to be our best selves. As a nation and as individuals, we see that we can (and must) make an impact. But we don’t necessarily know how to be our authentic self.
The answer will require us to step out of the molds we have created so we can ask ourselves, is this working for me? To quote Uriel Abulof, “Don’t merely know thyself, be thyself.” Or to quote William Shakespeare, “to thine own self be true.” Now more than ever, the world needs you to be you.
Vulnerability, support, care, and mentorship are all services that we pay to receive because our culture doesn’t provide these services on its own. We don’t have many many role models that encourage our authenticity. Often we get overwhelmed, anxious, concerned or lost in doubting ourselves, with thoughts like what if I don’t know how, or what if I’m not enough, or what if I fail? Trust us, there is no such thing as failure when you continue to let your light shine.
How can our actions be congruent with our beliefs and desires, despite external pressure? We get it, life is hard, even for the most privileged. We all struggle with different physical and mental challenges, and it is the uniqueness of these struggles that brings us closer to ourselves and our potential to contribute to society.
Authenticity takes practice, the journey to one’s self is long. Although we are born with it, most of us lose our sense of self as we deal with the pragmatic realities of adulthood. We can’t always remove ourselves from the situations or people that bring us stress. What we can do is form habits that mitigate the impact on our lives when we are exposed to these situations.